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somatic SEX therapy
in colorado

for teens & adults | online & in-person

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Sex therapy is essentially a fuller expression of supporting your emotional wellbeing & wholeness.

If you abandon yourself at work or with family, there’s a good chance you abandon yourself in your sexual expression, too. If you never differentiated yourself from your family of origin, you might also have had trouble feeling adult in your sexuality.

What my clients essentially yearn for is wholeness, where their way of moving about the external world matches their internal desires and sense of self. For some, this yearning has gone unsatisfied for as long as they can remember. For others, a life event (relationship rupture, identity-based oppression, trauma, or physiological change) brought them out of alignment with their expression of the erotic, with their generative life force.

sex therapy is for anyone who…

is 13+ and lives in a body!

Whether you experience erotic desire (or do not); identify with a gender (or do not); experience hormonal changes (created by you or not); have zero to many partners with zero to many committed relationships; identify with a dysfunction (or do not).

views sexuality as part of healthy human development.

Whether that development was arrested prematurely during childhood, or you wish to explore the lifelong evolution of your sexuality (even after children, menopause, partner loss, or chronic illness.)

is processing sexual or identity-based trauma

Be it processing wounding such as microaggressions, identity-based bullying, assault, coercion, infertility, miscarriage, traumatic childbirth, shame, or chronic STIs.

is neurodivergent

Maybe you’re discovering that differences in attention, inhibition, emotional regulation, and sensory processing show up outside of work and school (hyperfixation, stimming, and SPINs show up…there?!)

wants positive sex-ed

You want a safe place to grow and learn because middle-school sex ed, sassy content creators, and pornography are not solid resources for learning about your arousal anatomy, consent, toys, and kink. You are paying me to research things you do not want  to Google.

feels out of control

I do not find that research supports the efficacy of sex or love addiction treatment. I do not support conversion therapy for minors or adults. However, I support those who struggle with “Out of Control Sexual Behavior”.

I am guided by the principles of anti-oppression, neurodiversity & sex-positivity, and work with clients of all faith and wisdom traditions.

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a word about sex therapy

It would be reasonable of you to expect that all therapists are affirming of sexual diversity and have updated knowledge about common sexual issues across the lifespan.  Sadly, “sex therapy” continues to be pushed to the margins of therapist training. Many therapists are too shy to ask about a client’s sex life, and simply don’t have capacity to learn about current issues of gender, hormones, sexual wellness, trauma, and marginalization.

I believe we can and must do better. Psychotherapy cannot illuminate the shadows of the psyche and connect people to wholeness while politely sidestepping sexual wellness because our culture feels too shy and awkward to talk about it.

And so, while any therapist can call themselves a “sex therapist”, I am undergoing advanced training as a Certified Sex Therapist at Sexual Health Alliance, covering developmental sexuality, socio-cultural influences, diversity in sexual expression, anatomy and physiology, health/medical factors, range of sexual functioning, exploitation, ethics, pleasure enhancement skills, and research.

REFLECTIONS

  • “After working with you, I was able to feel emotions that I couldn't before, which has helped me be myself. I chose you because I knew that you wouldn't look away no matter what I brought up, which felt amazing.”

  • "Ali is unapologetically authentic, light-hearted, and compassionate. She provides an empowering, healing space of unconditional acceptance, celebrating all the aspects of your identity that make you YOU."

    Hannah Elliott, MA, LMHCA

  • "More than any other therapist I’ve worked with, Ali has a knack for helping me identify the heart of the matter - and building my skills to take that new found clarity and apply it in my life. I’m so grateful!"

  • “I enjoy my time with Ali, taking time to slow down and reflect on how my body and mind are at. She is supportive of the ADHD brain, working with me in-person rather than through the sterilizing computer screen.”

  • “Ali's open minded approach to therapy has been a huge blessing to me. I especially appreciate how she holds on to important moments, reminding me to slow down and feel. I couldn't be more grateful to have found her.”

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  • We will first meet for a free 20-minute consultation (virtually or in-person) to see if we are a good fit for working together. From there, 90-min sessions are $150, and 60-min sessions are $120. Sliding scale rates are available for those in need.

    Affiliations: I provide services to clients of Crested Butte State of Mind, Project Hope of Gunnison Valley, and Mines and Associates Employee Assistance Programs. If you are a client of any of these organizations, you may qualify for free sessions with me.

    Insurance: do not bill directly to insurance companies or Medicaid. Please inquire with your insurance provider to see if you can be reimbursed for Out of Network services. Upon request, I can provide a monthly superbill that you will submit to your insurance company.

  • For some, Sex Therapy may just look like regular therapy with a deep level of affirmation and integration. For others, it may look much more action-oriented: referrals to medical practitioners and coaches; more exploration between sessions with yourself or a partner; practical tools to address medical issues and disability in your sex life; and building confidence in advocating for yourself with clinicians, partners, or anyone who struggles to engage with you as a whole person.

  • As a somatic psychotherapist, I integrate body-based practices (such as mindfulness and somatic EMDR) with cognitive-behavioural modalities rooted in Gestalt Therapy and Transpersonal Counseling. You can read more about these approaches on my Psychotherapy page.

    I also offer specific sex-therapy interventions (sensate focus, self-pleasure training, stop-start for ED, etc.). Many of my clients are surprised to learn that mindfulness exercises are the cornerstone of sex therapy interventions!

  • I work with individuals, and do not currently offer couple’s counseling. For many clients, sexual embodiment begins by addressing individual challenges first before involving a partner. While desire discrepancy within couples is a common issue that leads people to sex therapy, I help individuals connect to their own erotic self. This may ultimately support someone experiencing desire discrepancy in a relationship, but I do not directly work with this issue. 

  • As a member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) I do not work within the frameworks of Sex Addiction on Conversion Therapy. However, I do support those who struggle with Out of Control Sexual Behavior.

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To swim against the current of the cultural message that pleasure is frivolous, secondary, or even shameful takes bravery. To advocate for your erotic expression is a deep act of self-advocacy. that’s what i’m here for.

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